A Curious Girl: ...They go together like a horse and carriage

All right, much as I don't particularly want Clive reading this, I don't think I'm going to hold out on the password front for very long.

Plain and simple, I just like the feeling that people I don't know might discover my diary and think, 'Wow, someone who I can relate to!' (if such a person exists ;) ) Although it seems rather sad that he probably hasn't even noticed the password yet and I've already got cold feet.

Last night's discussion with James re. sex and marriage did not get anywhere much (he was saying that if you have sex with someone, willingly, you should marry them. Assuming you're not already married.). I don't think he was even at that Youth Event (Access) where they did the Sex issue, yet he appeared to be taking it past literally.

I mean, yes, I believe that sex is a gift God gave for marriage. Yes I agree that sex is not just about the physical activity. But sex isn't everything. If you had sex with someone you shouldn't, that's a cause for repentance rather than for rushing down to the Church to say you should now become sex-partners for the rest of your life. Marriage isn't about who you have sex with... sex is for marriage not the other way around!

When I asked him if he thought my mother and father should have married, he said, 'I don't know the full circumstances.'

Surely this means that he does in fact believe that there are exceptions to this rule he perceives from his Bible-study. I asked him who someone who was engaged to someone else but had sex with a prostitute should marry, he said, 'Biblically, the prostitute.'

He reveals himself. Why 'biblically'? He makes it sound as though he thinks otherwise... but 'hey, whatever my interpretation of the Bible says'... If he has the reservations he reveals, perhaps he should think those over and figure out why he has them? For the sake of his own faith as well as for the rest of us.

The other thing that really irritates me about conversations with James is that I get all interested into how he's been and what he's been doing, and he doesn't appear to care about me. Fair enough, I know that my personal life doesn't interest some people, but when I teased him that maybe it was his turn to ask a question, he used it as a blatant excuse to have a rant about his own opinions. I am not a padded cell for him to bounce against! Also I suspect that all the importance he places on sex is a man thing.

Funny really, James comes across at first sight as an intelligent, mild-mannered sort of person. He's passionate about God and that's really exciting. And then we get into arguments.

Yes, he's zealous... but he's also a chauvinist... and this may be because he doesn't in fact understand anything about women.

Maybe I'm being too bold to suggest all this. I suspect this entry is not coming out in the Spirit of Christian Tolerance. I still love James, and I'd like him to see the light. I still care about his well-being and I can still have a joke with him...

But he so annoys me at times! :)

Anyway, I have lost the battle, I've flunked out of the passwording. A lot of the stuff in this diary Clive should know anyway, it's just that sometimes we never get to talk...

Later editing - to James's credit, he did tell me this afternoon he was just wanting to know 'other people's opinions' on the issue. Then he said 'I was hoping that everyone would be all biblical in their outlook on it all, lol.....but nah worldly views have dominated'... I'm touched :)

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